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10 Comics You’ll Relate To If You Think Dating Today Is Total B.S.

Who says that comic books must all have Batman or other villains on it to be a great read? If you are an adult who loves comics but who is also dating in a world of BS dating schemes, there are a few reads that you shouldn’t miss out on grabbing. The list includes the 10 titles here. These are all great comics with storylines you are sure to enjoy and find very relatable, too.

Key Takeaways:

  • 24-year Marcella Stranieri has an Instragram account where she shares funny illustrations about dating struggles
  • Drawing cartoons helps Stranieri deal with the awkwardness and uncomfortable situations of dating
  • Stranieri receives comments from followers that they feel the same way and can connect to her drawings.

“If your relationship status is “single and at this point, I think I’ll just stay that way,” you’ll appreciate Marcella Stranieri’s comics.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dating-is-pretty-much-the-worst_us_590b6dfde4b0104c734cd63c?section=us_divorce

The Placebo Effect Can Mend Your Broken Heart, Study Suggests

The pain felt during an emotional breakup is actually very similar to physical pain. Researchers tested subjects via photographs of their previous breakup partners as well as providing a jolt of physical pain. The fMRI showed similar locations in the brain active during each test. The subjects were then given a nasal spray placebo and the test was repeated. The placebo group experienced less emotional and physical pain. The takeaway is that one needs to believe that things can and will get better in the future.

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How I Learned To Navigate Dating As A Widow

A widow who started dating again only months after losing her husband advises her readers not to make this same mistake. She entered the dating scene to prove her desirability, not because she was ready for a new relationship. She had not yet processed her loss or worked her way through her grief. This widow needed to take time to recover and regain her sense of self. She was physically exhausted from the time she had spent as her late husband’s caregiver. The dating process itself was also exhausting.

Key Takeaways:

  • Deciding, as a widow, if you are even interested, or ready, for dating other people.
  • Have you, as a widow, moved on and coped with your loss in a healthy manner in which you will be able to make a healthy commitment to someone new?
  • Are you aware of what you want out of this new relationship?

“I hear from so many widowed folk who get plenty of love and companionship from friends and family. They don’t want to re-enter the dating fray.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dating-for-widows-and-widowers-5-questions-to-ask_us_59270979e4b0627b74360e00?section=us_divorce

How To Take Your Marriage From Sexless To Steamy, In 7 Steps

People who decided to leave their SM are also suffering. Divorce is never an easy option. No one gets married thinking “in 10 years I am going to divorce”. Many have children who will be affected by divorce. While contemplating divorce, their hearts are in pain as they think how the divorce will affect their children. To tell them that sex will solve their problem is nothing more than a slap in the face. Divorce is also painful because of the many years spent with the spouse. Despite the sexlessness and abuse, there usually are a lot of good memories that are difficult to get rid of. Those memories add to the general unease and anxiety associated with leaving.

Key Takeaways:

  • Many couples have issues with sexless relationships and it needs to be addressed with each other.
  • You must both be honest and open with each other in order to try to come up with new ways to rekindle your sex life.
  • Explore new ideas and techniques that may be out of your norm, but be comfortable and willing to do things your partner may be wanting to try.

“According to data scientist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, the top-searched marriage complaint on Google is “sexless marriage” ― and it only takes a second to stumble upon advice forums, like the Dead Bedrooms board on Reddit.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/sexless-marriage-no-more_us_58d1572ee4b0be71dcf866f4?section=us_divorce

3 Words For Those Who Can’t Cope With Divorce

Nobody ever wants to be divorced. The pain of waking up every day, feeling alone and wondering what the other person is doing can really take an emotion toll on a person. Instead of living your life thinking about the other person and the misery, try to live by three simple words: Enjoy each day. Wake up and think about the positives and find things to do with each day. Your attitude will make everything and help you to get through the divorce.

Key Takeaways:

  • Jackie Pilossoph believes the words “enjoy each day” are especially relevant to those experiencing the throes of divorce.
  • One reader was so distraught by his divorce he called the experience worse than death.
  • Enjoyment is something each one can take an active part in, according to Pilossoph, allowing the divorced person to regain some sense of control.

“I tell newly separated people who are really in the thick of feeling crappy that they should take some time every single day to enjoy something.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/3-words-for-those-who-cant-cope-with-divorce_us_58ef7283e4b04cae050dc4ec?section=us_divorce

3 Ways To Prepare Your Life (And Your Heart) For A Divorce

Anyone going through a divorce is one of the most difficult things you can experience. I love that you recommend that you should find a partner you can trust to talk too, sometimes just talking about it, can you make you feel so much better. We also do need to know our rights and to know the correct things to do, will give you the confidence you need. Taking it one day at a time is so important, because we can get so caught up with trying to do so many things, sometimes we do have to just take a step back, take a deep breath and know that we will get through it one day at a time.

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Do You Love Your Kid More Than You Hate Your Ex?

The gist of this article is what the author calls the “one wound” theory. This theory expounds that the parents’ divorce was the only “wound” they wanted to inflict on their children. Thus, their joint choice was to make sure that the kids weren’t wounded by their continued interactions with each other, with and without the kids. They call it “coparenting” and it is probably the one thing that helps to keep the children whole and healthy.

Key Takeaways:

  • Kate Chapman, a Huffington Post Contributor, is a member of a blended family, who believes she did the right thing in staying friendly with her ex.
  • In explaining her peaceful relationship with her ex to her son, Chapman called the divorce the one wound, one that she refused to exacerbate with further hurts.
  • Most importantly, she explained that she and her ex loved him to much to continue to hate each other.

“Filling my head and heart with anger about Billy would cloud the happy memories I have of our marriage, and the beginning of my adventures in motherhood.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/do-you-love-your-kid-more-than-you-hate-your-ex_us_58fe01fde4b0f02c3870ec7f?section=us_divorce

What to Do About Deep Loneliness Post-Divorce

A lot of divorced people experience social stigma, friends leave and it is hard to make new friends. This makes a tough situation even tougher. There are some tips to manage this feeling of loneliness. You need to embrace fully grieving your situation, you will get over it quicker and move on faster. Stop dwelling unnecessarily on your past. Don’t be afraid to go to support groups and get out there to meet other people. Finally, find people who understand and support you.

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After an Affair, How Innocent Partners Rebuild the Marriage

In order for a couple to repair the relationship post affair, it takes a great deal of proactive and positive behavior from the innocent partner. The key factor to rebuilding is to forgive the individual who cheated which in turn will rebuild intimacy through grace. These acts of forgiveness are very powerful emotionally. This also includes avoiding any mention of the affair, increasing acts of kindness, open communication, talking about what led to the affair and then doing things to demonstrate love and forgiveness. Doing these things along with therapy will help couples who would like to continue a marriage post affair to do so.

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What Mike Pence Gets Wrong (And Right) About Marriage, From An Infidelity Recovery Expert

Mike Pence’s “never dine alone with a woman” may seem like good marriage advice, but one marriage therapist thinks that it can lead to conflict. The idea of never being alone with another woman is dismissive of all women and makes it difficult for women to succeed in the workforce. It is possible to have friendships with people of the opposite sex without straying into infidelity. In order to avoid infidelity, spouses should be open with one another about their friendships, avoid letting friendships intrude on family time, and identify and address having “feelings” for a friend. At the end of the day, spouses must be able to trust both themselves and their partners and cutting off 50 percent of the population isn’t a sign of trust.

Key Takeaways:

  • Refusing to dine with other women because you are married is discriminatory because it implies that the only thing of interest about a woman is her as a sexual object
  • Different people fulfill different needs in other aspects of your life and are necessary in order to live well rounded
  • If there are feelings involved in a relationship outside of the marriage, then steps should be taken to make sure that it is not taken too far

“If you rule out social interactions with all people of the opposite sex, you are saying that you don’t trust your colleague — or yourself.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/what-vice-president-pence-gets-wrong-and-right-about_us_58e1bd22e4b03c2b30f6a7fc?section=us_divorce