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The Most Important Things To Know About Divorce

The author, Jim Halfens, discusses the most important things to know about divorce in this article. He states that divorce is more likely to happen during the summer or after a vacation, referring to summer time as “the calm before the storm”. Social media also plays a huge role in divorce as spouses have access to ex’s, and pornography. Statistics also show that the younger you marry, the more likely you are to divorce and continue to have failed marriages.

Key Takeaways:

  • Like sloughs after peaks, divorces often erupt after high family-first periods, like summer vacations and winter holidays.
  • Marriage dissolution rates lesson from more than half, for those marrying before age 18, to closer to a third, for those holding out till at least their 20s.
  • Social media, possibly because it fosters easy access to old and new connections, can pay a significant role in marriages ending.

“Over the summer the subject of divorce tends to be all over the media. As CEO of Divorce Hotel I notice that this is the time of year when I receive the highest number of requests to interview.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/the-most-important-things-to-know-about-divorce_us_597ad735e4b09982b7376386?section=us_divorce

There Really is a The One-Minute Marriage Cleanse?

There is a one minute marriage cleanse that can help people out a lot. There are so many things that demand attention from couples and they never have time to spend with each other. They have work and kids and that is a lot to juggle every single day. Gone are the days when a couple can go out on a date night. Things are just too hectic now. Relationships get neglected nowadays because of all the busy people.

Key Takeaways:

  • Taking 1 minute out of your day can help your marriage.
  • Thinking about things you like about your partner can help reinforce feelings towards them.
  • Counseling for couples is not widely used by couples because of a lack of time, therefore solutions like the One-Minute Cleanse have formed.

“One of the most common obstacles I find nowadays in trying to do couples counseling is that couples are just too busy with work demands, children’s activities and a gazillion other day to day things that soak up a couple’s time.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-two-shall-become-one/201707/there-really-is-one-minute-marriage-cleanse

10 Comics You’ll Relate To If You Think Dating Today Is Total B.S.

Who says that comic books must all have Batman or other villains on it to be a great read? If you are an adult who loves comics but who is also dating in a world of BS dating schemes, there are a few reads that you shouldn’t miss out on grabbing. The list includes the 10 titles here. These are all great comics with storylines you are sure to enjoy and find very relatable, too.

Key Takeaways:

  • 24-year Marcella Stranieri has an Instragram account where she shares funny illustrations about dating struggles
  • Drawing cartoons helps Stranieri deal with the awkwardness and uncomfortable situations of dating
  • Stranieri receives comments from followers that they feel the same way and can connect to her drawings.

“If your relationship status is “single and at this point, I think I’ll just stay that way,” you’ll appreciate Marcella Stranieri’s comics.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dating-is-pretty-much-the-worst_us_590b6dfde4b0104c734cd63c?section=us_divorce

How I Learned To Navigate Dating As A Widow

A widow who started dating again only months after losing her husband advises her readers not to make this same mistake. She entered the dating scene to prove her desirability, not because she was ready for a new relationship. She had not yet processed her loss or worked her way through her grief. This widow needed to take time to recover and regain her sense of self. She was physically exhausted from the time she had spent as her late husband’s caregiver. The dating process itself was also exhausting.

Key Takeaways:

  • Deciding, as a widow, if you are even interested, or ready, for dating other people.
  • Have you, as a widow, moved on and coped with your loss in a healthy manner in which you will be able to make a healthy commitment to someone new?
  • Are you aware of what you want out of this new relationship?

“I hear from so many widowed folk who get plenty of love and companionship from friends and family. They don’t want to re-enter the dating fray.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dating-for-widows-and-widowers-5-questions-to-ask_us_59270979e4b0627b74360e00?section=us_divorce

How To Take Your Marriage From Sexless To Steamy, In 7 Steps

People who decided to leave their SM are also suffering. Divorce is never an easy option. No one gets married thinking “in 10 years I am going to divorce”. Many have children who will be affected by divorce. While contemplating divorce, their hearts are in pain as they think how the divorce will affect their children. To tell them that sex will solve their problem is nothing more than a slap in the face. Divorce is also painful because of the many years spent with the spouse. Despite the sexlessness and abuse, there usually are a lot of good memories that are difficult to get rid of. Those memories add to the general unease and anxiety associated with leaving.

Key Takeaways:

  • Many couples have issues with sexless relationships and it needs to be addressed with each other.
  • You must both be honest and open with each other in order to try to come up with new ways to rekindle your sex life.
  • Explore new ideas and techniques that may be out of your norm, but be comfortable and willing to do things your partner may be wanting to try.

“According to data scientist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, the top-searched marriage complaint on Google is “sexless marriage” ― and it only takes a second to stumble upon advice forums, like the Dead Bedrooms board on Reddit.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/sexless-marriage-no-more_us_58d1572ee4b0be71dcf866f4?section=us_divorce

3 Words For Those Who Can’t Cope With Divorce

Nobody ever wants to be divorced. The pain of waking up every day, feeling alone and wondering what the other person is doing can really take an emotion toll on a person. Instead of living your life thinking about the other person and the misery, try to live by three simple words: Enjoy each day. Wake up and think about the positives and find things to do with each day. Your attitude will make everything and help you to get through the divorce.

Key Takeaways:

  • Jackie Pilossoph believes the words “enjoy each day” are especially relevant to those experiencing the throes of divorce.
  • One reader was so distraught by his divorce he called the experience worse than death.
  • Enjoyment is something each one can take an active part in, according to Pilossoph, allowing the divorced person to regain some sense of control.

“I tell newly separated people who are really in the thick of feeling crappy that they should take some time every single day to enjoy something.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/3-words-for-those-who-cant-cope-with-divorce_us_58ef7283e4b04cae050dc4ec?section=us_divorce

Do You Love Your Kid More Than You Hate Your Ex?

The gist of this article is what the author calls the “one wound” theory. This theory expounds that the parents’ divorce was the only “wound” they wanted to inflict on their children. Thus, their joint choice was to make sure that the kids weren’t wounded by their continued interactions with each other, with and without the kids. They call it “coparenting” and it is probably the one thing that helps to keep the children whole and healthy.

Key Takeaways:

  • Kate Chapman, a Huffington Post Contributor, is a member of a blended family, who believes she did the right thing in staying friendly with her ex.
  • In explaining her peaceful relationship with her ex to her son, Chapman called the divorce the one wound, one that she refused to exacerbate with further hurts.
  • Most importantly, she explained that she and her ex loved him to much to continue to hate each other.

“Filling my head and heart with anger about Billy would cloud the happy memories I have of our marriage, and the beginning of my adventures in motherhood.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/do-you-love-your-kid-more-than-you-hate-your-ex_us_58fe01fde4b0f02c3870ec7f?section=us_divorce

What Mike Pence Gets Wrong (And Right) About Marriage, From An Infidelity Recovery Expert

Mike Pence’s “never dine alone with a woman” may seem like good marriage advice, but one marriage therapist thinks that it can lead to conflict. The idea of never being alone with another woman is dismissive of all women and makes it difficult for women to succeed in the workforce. It is possible to have friendships with people of the opposite sex without straying into infidelity. In order to avoid infidelity, spouses should be open with one another about their friendships, avoid letting friendships intrude on family time, and identify and address having “feelings” for a friend. At the end of the day, spouses must be able to trust both themselves and their partners and cutting off 50 percent of the population isn’t a sign of trust.

Key Takeaways:

  • Refusing to dine with other women because you are married is discriminatory because it implies that the only thing of interest about a woman is her as a sexual object
  • Different people fulfill different needs in other aspects of your life and are necessary in order to live well rounded
  • If there are feelings involved in a relationship outside of the marriage, then steps should be taken to make sure that it is not taken too far

“If you rule out social interactions with all people of the opposite sex, you are saying that you don’t trust your colleague — or yourself.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/what-vice-president-pence-gets-wrong-and-right-about_us_58e1bd22e4b03c2b30f6a7fc?section=us_divorce

12 Inspiring Quotes From Celebrity Moms And Dads About Co-Parenting

There are 12 very inspiring quotes from celebrity moms and dads about parenting together. Having a kid grow up with two parents that love each other is the ideal situation for any parent. Even when parents separate, they keep their kids happiness in mind and do not the the break up affect them in a bad way. It is a challenge for sure to co parent with someone that you are not in love with, but it can be done.

Key Takeaways:

  • I feel it’s my responsibility as a mom when their dad is not there to let them know that their dad loves them very much
  • We felt like as much togetherness as possible would be ideal, and fortunately we really love each other and are best friends, and so that works.”
  • As people can imagine, it gets rough at times just because we’re not in the same city, but we still love each other and what’s most important is we love our son.

“In magazine interviews and television appearances, the co-parents of Hollywood have made it clear that the experience isn’t always simple and easy, but have also stressed that it is possible to remain a loving family after a separation or divorce.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/quotes-from-celebrity-moms-and-dads-about-co-parenting_us_59384a54e4b0c5a35c9b5f02?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

The Candid, Honest Reasons These Women Called Off Their Engagements

Ever felt trapped after getting engaged, just because that ring was sitting on your finger. Here’s the thing, it I see never too late to say no, ever. These women have told their stories of the times they have broken off their own engagements and the very reasons that led to these decisions. Not every relationship comes out glamorous and beauty once that ring is slipped on, and in most cases some expect it to get better, lets face it, if it was bad before what would make it better after?

Key Takeaways:

  • Broken engagements most commonly happen due to a fear of commitments
  • Some reasons for a broken engagement include substance abuse issues or infidelity
  • A fear of commitment happens when a person is not ready for a mature, healthy relationship

“But she’s not alone; many women and men call off relationships with people they they seriously considered marrying.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/why-women-call-off-engagements_us_591c7ce9e4b094cdba5072fa?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce