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23 Honest Things People Say After Having Sex

The article explores 23 things people say to their partners after having sexual intercourse. The responses are generated from various Twitter feeds where users shared their thoughts. Some of the responses were crass, humorous and/or inane. The responses show the various ways people interpret sex and their responses to it in the aftermath. The author provided little analysis or feedback to the responses. Instead, she merely listed them with in the body of the published article.

Key Takeaways:

  • People say random things after sex. It is not romantic or hot.
  • Alot of after sex conversation revolves around food. Discussing what to eat is not uncommon
  • Some references refer to humor such as current political reference. Such as election jokes

“You may talk dirty in the moment but once the deed is done, the conversation tends to be considerably less sexy.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/good-sex-but-now-im-hungry_us_58af3616e4b0780bac275dc4?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

My Ex And Me. Together, Unhappy.

An online version of a psychology magazine has a piece written by a woman about her divorce. The woman is in her forties and is remarried. She uses as a starting point her current husband’s declaration of love. She muses about her first marriage, when she was in her twenties, and how it went wrong. She concludes that some of the blame for the marriage falls on her. She realizes she never had enough love for her ex.

Key Takeaways:

  • You can go from an unhappy marriage to a healthy one
  • Even if love exists in a bad marriage, it is suffocated
  • A good second marriage can come from two unhappy in love people

“I don’t condone nor can I forget the details. I don’t even want to, it’s part of my life.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/my-ex-and-me-together-unhappy_us_58b7851ae4b015675cf65c46?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

3 Toxic Mistakes That Can Tear Young Married Couples Apart

Marriage can be hard when you’re young which is why so many lead to divorce. The percentage is high. There are so many mistakes which can be made. Knowing what they are ahead of time can help you to avoid making them. Three common ones are discussed here. These are three which often break up marriages so should be known of and avoided at all costs if one is to survive. It won’t be easy not to make these but if you pay attention you can stop it.

Key Takeaways:

  • Life is about learning. When your partner makes a mistake allow them to grow.
  • Don’t share your business with everyone especially your parents. Guard the sanctity of your marriage.
  • Relationship change after marriage. Don’t think it will be just like dating. It is not.

“When your partner says or does something that offends you, it’s important not to harp on that mistake in the future.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/3-toxic-mistakes-that-can-tear-young-married-couples-apart_us_58de9a50e4b0ba359594aeee?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

This Man Who Set Up ‘Relationship-Saving Stations’ In Ikea Is A Hero

Ikea is a great store that many love. They offer a lot of interesting and innovative things you don’t even know you need till you see them. This man is making Ikea even better by bringing the ability to save your relationship there. Relationships are hard and any help with them should be at least appreciated if not actually used. If someone is willing to try to help others in this way he is probably at least kindhearted if nothing else and that should be understood.

Key Takeaways:

  • Stations all come with a photo of a puppy in a cup to remind us of happier things.
  • An Elsa Jar invites you to wrote down what you’re angry about and then “let it go”.
  • You can also “blow your anger” into bubbles (also provided at the station).

“With its maze-like layouts and massive crowds, Ikea is notorious as a place where relationships go to die.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/save-your-relationship-at-ikea_us_58ed439fe4b0c89f912264fd?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

Sorry, But You Can’t ‘Just Be Friends With An Ex.’ Here’s Why.

If you have ever broken up with an ex and then tried to be friends afterward you probably found that it was very hard. There were probably resentments and other hard feelings between you. There are actual reasons for this which are explained here. If you plan to try maintaining a friendship with an ex you should be as aware of the possible problems as possible because they’re very real and are ard to get past.

Key Takeaways:

  • Holding on to a friendship with your ex never works out, it sets up a further heartbreak in the future.
  • People are still friends with their ex just because they still care deeply about them but just don’t want the romantic side of the relationship anymore.
  • People remain to be friends with their ex because they still have hope for their relationship.

“We are deeply attached to the idea that we’re not monsters and as we know, nice people always try to be friends with their exes”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/why-we-try-to-be-friends-with-our-ex-and-why-we-fail_us_58ed717ee4b0df7e204669a8?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

Sorry, But You Can’t ‘Just Be Friends With An Ex.’ Here’s Why.

Many couples think they can break up and remain friends but it often doesn’t work out. This gives reasons why and is interesting because it definitely makes sense to anyone who has actually tried this themselves. It can be hard to break up and leave someone behind but it can’t always be helped.

Key Takeaways:

  • Staying friends after a break up rarely works out.
  • Society says being friends is the right choice. After all we are adults
  • From lover to friend is embarrassing. The demotion leaves someone wanting more

“The step from lover to friend is an eternally humiliating demotion.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/why-we-try-to-be-friends-with-our-ex-and-why-we-fail_us_58ed717ee4b0df7e204669a8?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

This Man Who Set Up ‘Relationship-Saving Stations’ In Ikea Is A Hero

IKEA is one of those massive places where couples go with all the best intentions but often find themselves clawing at each other’s throats. No one really knows what about this store drags out the beast in all of us, but the fact remains that it does, and someone finally decided to do something about it.

Key Takeaways:

  • In many IKEA stores there is a “Relationship Saving” station that couples who are shopping can use.
  • These stations helps couples deal with IKEA assembly related stress and disagreements that can result from the world furniture shopping (and assembly).
  • Among the other knickknacks at the station are a horse to yell at and a giant picture of a cute puppy in a coffee cup. The author believe these stations have saved many a relationship.

“Knowing how dangerous a trip to the Swedish superstore can be for couples, comedian Jeff Wysaski recently set up some handy “relationship-saving stations” in the store’s Burbank, California location.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/save-your-relationship-at-ikea_us_58ed439fe4b0c89f912264fd?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

4 Self-Care Techniques That’ll Help You Heal From Divorce Wounds

Meditation is a gift of stillness in a busy world. It is a gift of listening to what your mind and body need to tell you. It’s a gift that won’t require anything back from you. Try it for 5 or 10 minutes. Try to give yourself that time every day. focus on and appreciation of all the great things you do have in your life right now is critical. It’s incredibly tempting, during divorce, to forge a new co-dependent relationship with your couch. I urge you to resist that temptation as much as possible.

Key Takeaways:

  • Women are sometimes so busy taking care of everyone else, they forget to take care of themselves.
  • Self-care is about nourishing your whole self to bring you back into balance. It’s about alignment.
  • Daily practice in self-care, especially during a divorce, is essential to helping you find a calm, more centered you so that you can meet these challenges head-on.

“Self-care is about more than just a mani-pedi or a new haircut. It’s about nourishing your soul.”

http://www.yourtango.com/experts/laura-miolla/thrive-during-your-divorce-these-4-self-care-tips

Need Help Coping With a Tough Marriage? A Painful Divorce?

A divorce can mirror a bad marriage, what was bad in the marriage can carry over to the divorce. It’s important to understand the perspective of your partner. It’s easy to interpret their actions as hurtful when it may be your partner’s way of coping. Having empathy for your partner will help you cope in a divorce situation.

Key Takeaways:

  • I felt like he was punishing me. That’s what he has done all through our marriage. He’s always punishing me,” Stephanie answered in a tone of major distress.
  • He always makes me feel insufficient, like there’s something I did wrong,” Stephanie complained, “so I reacted just like I usually do.
  • Marriage takes both maturity and skills from both partners, plus good matching. Partner choice does matter.

“Marriage is challenging. Going through a divorce also is challenging for almost everyone who ends a marriage, often because whatever went wrong in the marriage probably will go wrong in the divorce as well.”

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/resolution-not-conflict/201702/need-help-coping-tough-marriage-painful-divorce

23 Honest Things People Say After Having Sex

Sex is, well, sexy. Once the intercourse ends, though, people often slip back into mundane conversations. When Twitter users commented on this phenomenon, their admissions were quite frank. Post-sex conversations have ranged from politics to sports updates to bathroom habits. Questions are even more dry, from people asking about a cat’s sleeping habits to asking their partner if they’ve seen the remote control.

Key Takeaways:

  • Seriously, if you’ve never said “you hungry?” after sex, you’re lying.
  • You may talk dirty in the moment but once the deed is done, the conversation tends to be considerably less sexy.
  • For proof of how unsexy post-coital convo can be, look no further than the #ThingsISayAfterSex

“You may talk dirty in the moment but once the deed is done, the conversation tends to be considerably less sexy.”

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/good-sex-but-now-im-hungry_us_58af3616e4b0780bac275dc4?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce