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Divorce Island

Decades back, there was a pretentious show called Fantasy Island, where peculiar things happened to standard individuals. You have similar youngsters. Your ex or spouse is a similar individual, and your neighborhood, family, and companions are a similar neighborhood, family, and companions. The Beginning of a Divorce is set apart by the disintegration of the marriage for one or both sides. Somebody chooses to clear out. All things considered, he or she has been miserable for quite a while and needs another shot.

Key Takeaways:

  • A divorce is not a legal proceeding, but a process undergone by two people that can last for years outside of the court room.
  • Reconstructing a family can be a lot of work as one tries to find out who stays by their side and who will shut them out during this fragile period.
  • It can be difficult to care for one’s own life during a divorce, but parents also need to make sure they are doing well for their children.

“The Beginning of a Divorce is marked by the deterioration of the marriage for one or both parties.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201705/divorce-island

Can You Divorce Your Family?

A psychology journal has an account summarizing an essay recently issued by a professor at a well known university. The professor cites three types of family interactions which are similar to a divorce, as they have the pain associated with the separation. In one type, a member of the family becomes a pariah and is treated with less respect than others. In another type, a divorced parent imprints his or her dislike for the ex-spouse onto the child. The writer who summarizes the article advises that communication is needed to improve these bad relationships.

Key Takeaways:

  • Communication is the key to good family relationships. Unless you express your needs they will not know.
  • Limiting time with family is common. This estrangement is usually due to a lack of communication of needs.
  • Feeling like an outsider or like you are judged differently is a common cause of someone adding distance.

“Marginalized family members are commonly referred to as the “black sheep” of the family.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/conscious-communication/201704/can-you-divorce-your-family

10 Comics You’ll Relate To If You Think Dating Today Is Total B.S.

An well known news website has a piece about single women and dating. The writer, a woman, comments on the black and white cartoons, which are put out on Instagram by a female illustrator from the Washington, D.C. area. The writer posts ten of these cartoons, which are cynical pieces about dating. The writer interviews the cartoonist, who explains that her drawing is very therapeutic. The cartoons often have likes and comments. An embedded link leads to the cartoonist’s Instagram page.

Key Takeaways:

  • Everyone has their view of dating. Theses comics shade the frustrating sides of dating with humor.
  • Despite your dating history you are sure to find yourself in one of these comics.
  • Everyone enjoys being judged by their date. These comics poke fun at those judgments.

“On her Instagram account Marcella Draws, the 24-year-old shares doodles that detail common dating struggles, from the stupid texting rules we follow.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/dating-is-pretty-much-the-worst_us_590b6dfde4b0104c734cd63c?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

What Toxic Jealousy Reveals

A psychology journal has a feature about people who are abnormally jealous in their relationships. The writer, a psychologist, argues that this type of person may be reacting to unresolved childhood issues, such as an indifferent or cold parent-child relationship. She asks readers who feel they may be jealous to review their childhood history, look at the types of persons she is attracted to, and try to find out what hurt her as a child. She has a link with a guide on how to get better from this destructive pattern of behavior.

Key Takeaways:

  • If you have hurt from your childhood you need a therapist not another relationship.
  • If you are hurting you need to heal before you can have a healthy relationship.
  • A jealous relationship is easily mistaken as love at first sight.

“Toxic jealousy becomes a dysfunctional way to get unmet, but very normal, childhood needs for affection and genuine care met in adulthood.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/having-sex-wanting-intimacy/201704/what-toxic-jealousy-reveals

In India, Muslim men can end a marriage by saying ‘divorce’ three times. One woman wants to stop that. – Washington Post

A major newspaper has a piece about Muslim divorce practices in India. The feature focuses on a Muslim woman who was divorced when her husband wrote a letter with three statements divorcing her. This is consistent with Muslim practice. The woman took the matter to court, contending that the practice is not a critical feature of Islam, has been modified in some Muslim countries, and should be made illegal in India. She has been attacked by Muslim clerics but has the support of women’s groups.

Key Takeaways:

  • In India, a Muslim man can utter or write “I divorce you” three times (at the same time or over time) and he will be divorced from his wife automatically.
  • A 35-year-old woman who was divorced started a petition to end this practice.
  • More than 65% of divorced Muslim women were divorced in this manner.

“India allows communities to follow family laws that are governed by their religion.”

Read more: https://www.washingtonpost.com/world/asia_pacific/indian-muslim-men-can-end-a-marriage-by-saying-divorce-three-times-one-woman-wants-to-stop-that/2017/01/30/af0f4f9e-1b32-4e79-8ab3-1e6e89c3ec27_story.html

Ready to start dating again? 15 tips for getting back in the game after divorce – Today.com

Getting back into the dating game can be stressful because you can feel nervous and maybe afraid of failure. You want to make a good impression. If it’s been a while since you’ve dated you may have lost your confidence. This gives good tips for getting back into it and for being a bigger success. All you need to do is be yourself and be confident but these tips should help you to do that.

Key Takeaways:

  • Don’t run your new relationship with the pain left from the previous one. Make sure you are healed.
  • Date around and make sure you are finding the right person. Don’t just pick one and settle.
  • Looks are not everything. Make sure the person has personality and a character you can live with.

“Psychotic optimism is my philosophy on love, which I’m spreading to everyone who will listen.”

Read more: http://www.today.com/health/dating-after-divorce-15-tips-make-it-easier-t107773

What Is the Divorce Rate, Really?

An online version of a psychology journal has a piece about the divorce rate. A 2010 report estimated the rate at about fifty per cent. In 2014, a researcher contended that the rate is actually falling and is expected to be only one third. She cited an economist’s findings. Others have contested her statement as well as the economist’s data. The writer discusses the difficulty in measuring the divorce rate. She guesses that the rate is between 42 and 45 per cent.

Key Takeaways:

  • The idea that half of marriages end in divorce does not have factual support.
  • Projections show that roughly one third of marriages will end in divorce. This is significantly lower than previous thought.
  • The experts do not agree some say the divorce rate is actually increasing.

“It is true that half of all marriages end in divorce or a permanent separation.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/living-single/201702/what-is-the-divorce-rate-really

Divorce Is Probably Just As Painful As Death – YourTango

A blog about relationships has a piece written by a divorced man. The writer compares losing a person to divorce to losing one to death. He acknowledges there is a major difference, as the divorced person is still alive. Nevertheless, he contends the pain is similar, as well as the longing for the other person. He also says he will always have questions about the ex-spouse that he has about a deceased person. The writer includes a photo of himself displaying a snapshot of his children.

Key Takeaways:

  • Divorce is the toughest type of loss a person can go through.
  • Divorce is like grieving the death of someone. Either way you a grieving the loss of someone.
  • Divorce leaves a mental termoil that is hard to overcome.it leaves you confused and sad.

“There are a trillion factors that come into play when you’re going through the pain of divorce, and oftentimes those factors tend to dictate where your mind is at.”

Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/2017299067/why-pain-divorce-just-losing-loved-one

5 Things I Learned About My Husband Since His Death 3 Weeks Ago

May we all be lucky enough o have a mate that never sees nothing wrong. Always looking for the best in every body and in everything. I got married late in life. My now husband is also a person who is kind and lives to please me. I often think how much I would miss him if he should go to be with the Lord before I do. He does everything for me and loves for me to need him. Some women don’t realize that men are wired to be needed. Women who are in a relationship with a man who needs her to need him should be very grateful and less independent. Your independence should be there yes. But we women should be smart enough in our independence to allow our men/man to think we need them. It will allow your relationship to be easier and rewarding to both parties.
One day we are going to wake up and find that our mate is gone and all the little things he/she did that made us smile are gone also. We are going to be left to figure out how to use the remote control to control the rest of our lives without our loved one.
That’s not a good look ladies/gentlemen.

Key Takeaways:

  • I learned my husband had a disaster in his car trunk but always had what he needed.
  • I learned he was a better dad than I thought. He really loved and cared for our children.
  • He did not know how to be sweet but was in his own corny way.

“Being needed ― and appreciated ― is one of the things that keeps a marriage alive.”

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/5-things-i-learned-about-my-husband-since-his-death-3-weeks-ago_us_5888c0f7e4b0441a8f72147e?ir=Divorce&utm_hp_ref=divorce

7 Tell-Tale Signs Your Marriage Is Falling Apart

The following signs may signal that your marriage is collapsing and divorce is imminent. You might be fantasizing about being single. Perhaps you are focusing much more on negative memories over the good ones. Conflicts should always be resolved, but you and your partner might not be able to. If you don’t talk to you partner, that is a big sign. In addition, dismissing their feelings is not good at all. If you are putting in more effort into improving the relationship, then maybe it is time for it to be over. Finally and most importantly, if you cannot be yourself, then what is the point at all?

Key Takeaways:

  • If you find yourself thinking about being single this is a sign your marriage is in trouble.
  • If the bad times out way the good times this will weigh down your marriage.
  • Avoiding talking about feelings leave you both in the dark and undermines your marriage. Communication is key.

“Unfortunately, some marriages begin as fairy dust and end as a hot mess.”

Read more: http://www.yourtango.com/2015284345/7-tell-tale-signs-your-marriage-falling-apart