In 2014, Eli Finkel, a researcher with Northwestern University, came up with a number of questions to ask yourself about your relationships. The most basic is, what is a relationship? Another is, what tendencies do people bring to their relationshps? Also, how does context affect relationships? Culture is another consideration. What factors outside of your relationship, such as family, traditions, culture, and beliefs shape how you live and interact with your partner? By examining relationships, we can better understand and appreciate them.
- Eli Finkel of Northwestern University and his colleagues have proposed that
just 14 basic principles underlie all relationship theories.
- The work of Finkel and his colleagues is based on relationship science, which uses empirical methods to understand interpersonal relationships.
- Finkel divides the 14 principles into 4 categories of questions about relationships.
“Those with an insecure attachment style will be either clingy or perhaps dismissive and those more securely attached will be able to relate in a more even-keeled manner with their partner.”