It is a very bad sign when couples get into a pattern of ignoring or downplaying each other’s complaints, because even if the complaints stop, the problem often does not. Issues with sex are a common cause of relationship friction, and need to be addressed swiftly because they often involve feelings of rejection that can hurt the whole relationship. Clashes with in-laws can also cause problems in a marriage if ignored and not addressed, as can invasive or rude over-use of technology.
- Issues with sex may be hard to talk about, but the feeling of rejection and frustration they generate can impact all other elements of a relationship.
- Running feuds or baggage involving in-laws can be especially tricky to navigate, but setting boundaries with your relatives may be important to the long term health of the relationship.
- Irritation stemming from excessive or thoughtless use of technology can be at least partially mitigated with designated device-free time.
“One of the most common causes of long-term relationship breakups is when one member of a couple stops complaining about something that really matters to them, because her or his previous complaints have been ignored.”