Jen Simon outlines 9 ways one can break up and still do it gracefully. She says that these ways have been discovered by trial and error but they work. I will outline just three. One of them is that you have to recognize when it’s time to end the relationship. If your feelings are waning or he’s mean to you, you have to take your choices. Another is that you shouldn’t be mean when breaking up just because you want to be so. You should explain to him the reasons for the breakup and not use these as an opportunity to say all those things you have been bottling up for months. Also, don’t do the breakup publicly. Don’t choose this route because you don’t want a scene. It’s rude and embarrassing. Other ways can be found in the article.
- Even if you have a slew of expletives and personal negative points you’ve been dying to get off your chest, let it go, since you’re letting him go.
- If you don’t wish to remain friends with someone about to become your ex then don’t say so, as it merely prolongs the relationship crutch.
- For both of your sakes, and in the interest of good manners, have the charity and decency to break up without an audience.
“Like any skill, I learned through a very extensive trial and error process, leaving a wake of bruised egos, uncomfortable situations, and most depressing, months of prolonged, mediocre relationships.”