When it comes to bridging relationship distress, it is important to blame the pattern and not the person. Troubles relationships are usually all about high conflict and high stress. It can also be characterized by disengagement. If you are disengaged, then you may feel safe. But, it eventually becomes erosive and you cannot make a connection with the other person. You may have even come to a point where things seem like they cannot be fixed.
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