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If you’re one of those people who always lets others cut in line in front of you or otherwise dominate routine social interactions with you, then you might be able to use some tricks that actors use to project a more assertive image. Matthew Berry and Steven Brown of McMaster’s University came up with a number of different character archetypes based on high, medium, or low levels of assertiveness and cooperation. In order to appear more assertive, you might want to try using the voice mannerisms and traits of a more assertive archetype than your own.

Key Takeaways:

• Sometimes being nice does not get what you want and may result in your being pushed around by a more assertive individual.
• Certain techniques – such as voice tone and inflection, gesturing, and posturing – used by actors in a professional context can help you be more assertive in your day-to-day life.
• Even if you don’t feel assertive, you can easily employ these techniques to create that appearance.

“Practice these tricks yourself now by trying to portray the role of your favorite hero, or perhaps, favorite bully.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fulfillment-any-age/201906/six-acting-tricks-help-you-stop-being-pushover

Grieving fathers, much like others trying to cope with loss, sometimes channel their grief into trying to help others repair their own emotional turmoil. This can help dads deal with their own grief. It is also often a response to the renewed sense of urgency and a desire to focus more on important things and less on unimportant ones that many of them feel as a result of their loss. Activism can often feel therapeutic and purposeful, and can help direct anger and frustration in healthy ways rather than harmful ones.

Key Takeaways:

• Dads that have gone through a huge loss, such as losing a daughter, have found a new calling helping others during this hard time.
• Some dads go around the world and help fight dangers in the world, like the opiod craze and become an activist for others against these issues.
• These groups of me are here to help others. While they could’ve dug themselves into a sad hole, they are using their experiences to help others.

“We also appreciate the ravages and flow of time differently—especially as a son or daughter’s very being seems forever frozen in place.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unspeakable-gifts/201906/dads-called-action

A recent study found that people are less comfortable with the disclosure of distressing information online than offline. This applies whether the information – which in this test included a relationship breakup, a close friend’s suicide, and a relative’s cancer diagnosis – was being disclosed by themselves or shared by others. Those over 40 years old were less comfortable with online disclosures in general. Note that the research didn’t distinguish between general Facebook posting and the sharing at private support groups. Individuals wishing to share such information also need to consider whether receiving Facebook comments of support (or “likes”) is sufficient to help someone get through a difficulty time.

Key Takeaways:

• Most people prefer that their friends share personal, negative information offline.
• One study showed that people are more likely to share news about a breakup rather than a friend’s suicide or a serious health issue online.
• People who are more emotionally stable are shown to be less likely to post information about a breakup online.

“Both in person and online, self-disclosure can be an important way of forging intimacy in relationships.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-integrationist/201906/is-facebook-the-place-talk-about-your-breakup

When two people are splitting a marriage, it is a sad thing. Marriage is a sacred thing and in today’s world, too many people do not realize that. Collaborative divorce is a way that some people come together and settle on litigation and keep it more “in house.” This allows people to use trusted individuals as lawyers who can broker the case. If this is how people want to divorce, then who is anyone to tell them no?

Key Takeaways:

• Some people work better with the people that they know in these kind of situations.
• Too many individuals are caught up with the stigma of what divorce is without knowing the story.
• If someone is truly unhappy, then no one should tell them how they need to live their life.

“The first one is that the collaborative process results in a team of professionals that help the parties work together to reach a settlement. This is because the details often hang-up the process of settlement.”

Read more: https://www.lexology.com/library/detail.aspx?g=d96be3ef-977b-4d7e-858e-f57f904835df

Many women who go through divorce are actually at ease with the tough predicament. They might not have initially wanted a divorce but when it comes, they are much more ready to let go than men. Men try to hold on to the past a little bit more than women and as a result, they can feel a bit more stressed than their counterparts. However, the body line is that it is really stressful on both parties.

Key Takeaways:

• Some women are able to deal with the entire process a little better than men.
• It is hard to describe as to why women accept a deteriorating relationship more so than a man.
• No matter how you put it, it is a stressful feeling for all parties that are involved.

“He describes part of this paternal instinct as a longing to belong with the status quo, and to be a provider. “If a man is feeling distraught or shameful [because of the impact his family is feeling from divorce], he might disappear from the picture.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/2013196606/three-reasons-why-divorce-for-men-more-stressful-than-women

Even though we all know that divorce and breakups are messy and heartbreaking, lately celebrities have been touting that their separations are done only in love, amicably and even(one said), boringly. Thanks to one star’s coining the phrase, “conscious uncoupling” it has become even more popular for popular(and not so popular) people to divorce. Who knows if their comments on their separations are code, though, or if they really mean the rosy pictures they paint of their divorces.

Key Takeaways:

• Justin Theroux, ex-husband of Jennifer Aniston, reported their divorce as “gentle” and even “boring.”
• Other couples like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt have turned their divorce into a learning opportunity.
• Even Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan claim their divorce has been inspirational.

“Justin Theroux and Jennifer Aniston are the latest stars to go down the ‘Conscious Uncoupling’ route”

Read more: https://inews.co.uk/opinion/columnists/justin-theroux-jennifer-aniston-divorce/

Relationships present many obstacles that question relationships themselves. Every day drama could turn into big issues. There are some helpful tips to keeping a good marriage or relationship. First being honest is most important. Constantly checking goals and continuing to accomplish them. Attention and appreciation towards each other. When arguing do not try to push buttons and tell your exact feelings. Lastly, if there are problems or unhappiness, begin to change the approach and try again.

Key Takeaways:

• First being honest with each other and setting goals and accomplishments.
• Achieving your goals and accomplishments and being supportive with attention and appreciation towards each other.
• When arguing do not try to push each others buttons and tell your exact feelings.

“In my experience, people simply don’t know what to do to sustain love and passion in their relationships. I used to be one of them.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/experts/jeff-forte/stop-the-drama-how-save-your-marriage-from-divorce

There are many parents that go through a divorce. In today’s social climate, it feels as if it is happening more and more as time goes on. People are just far less inclined to work through their differences and figure out how to make a marriage work. It is no question that marriage is very difficult. For the people with families, they do not realize the impact that a divorce can have on their kids as they grow older.

Key Takeaways:

• Some kids are able to deal with these things better than others and it has been proven.
• Many people struggle internally to deal with the separation of two parents as it takes a toll.
• It could always be much worse as you realize there are many people who grew up without parents.

“It is often helpful to try a collaborative divorce model to lessen the psychological damage that can occur from a contentious divorce.”

Read more: https://www.masslive.com/living/index.ssf/2018/09/psychologist_offers_tips_on_helping_children_cope_with_divorce.html

The Marriage Foundation is hailing the encouraging results of its recent research project which has determined that divorce rates among couples married less than three years, between three to five years and over five years have all seen huge reductions. The study attributes this, at least in part, to fairer and more equitable social norms that help make relationships more satisfying and more stable. The Marriage Foundation notes that breakup rates among non-married couples remain much higher than for married couples.

Key Takeaways:

• Fewer women are filing for divorce because their husbands are assuming a larger share of marital duties.
• Marriages today are more stable than they have been at any time period since the 1970s.
• Couples who do not marry are experiencing far higher break-up rates.

“Couples divorcing after three years has halved while couples who have stayed for more than five years has gone down by more than 39 percent.”

Read more: https://www.modernghana.com/lifestyle/12707/divorce-rates-drop-to-their-lowest-levels-in-nearly-30-years.html

Even if monogamy is scientifically “not natural”, if you choose to be monogamous then you need to live that out. No one can accidentally choose to cheat on a significant other, and by doing so, you show just how little you may think of your significant other. Cheating on them is the lowest form of betrayal and yet something that could only be done to someone so close. So if you want to be married, be married. If you don’t, then don’t.

Key Takeaways:

• Cheating is basically a form of betrayal, and specifically one men reserve for their romantic partners, even though many would never treat other people this way.
• No matter how much time you spend around other women, you have the ability to choose not to cheat.
• While monogamy may indeed not be a “natural” fit or the right fit for everybody, if you want to sleep with someone else, you should break up first, not cheat.

“These men are quasi-experts on cheating — because they did it. And look, I’m not here to pass judgment on their infidelity, I simply have an issue with their reasoning.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/experts/charles-orlando/why-do-people-cheat-and-why-cheating-always-choice