Commentary

There are many misconceptions that people derive from being in a relationship. The first is that conflict is a bad thing. This simply is not true. Also, they believe that the divorce rate is fifty percent. This is over inflated. Furthermore, they think that opposites attract. This often is also not the case. Also, they think that Cohabitation leads to better/poorer marriage outcomes. This also is not the case. These are all false assumptions that everyone should be aware of

Key Takeaways:

• Conflict can be handled in a productive way that may deepen and improve the relationship.
• We can’t say for certain if cohabitation is good or bad for marriage. There are many other factors involved.
• The national divorce rate is 50%, but divorce rates are different in different age groups.

“Other research by Markey and Kurtz (2006) shows that successful couples are those in which the partners complement one another”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/finding-love-the-scientific-take/201802/relationship-misconceptions

Sometimes the signs that your relationship is emotionally abusive are so subtle that you dont realize that it is actually abuse. And, this is the whole plan of the abuser. It is important to maintain strong and healthy boundaries. To do so, you must understand the many shapes and forms of emotional abuse, including these 11 signs that it is what you are going through right now. What Are those signs that indicate your relationship is abusive?

Key Takeaways:

• Emotional abuse is usually used when someone wants to have power & control over another.
• Emotional abuse is not evident physically but can scar a person later in life.
• Some warning signs of emotional abuse include being careful what you say or do around partner, feeling sorry for them.

“The scars of emotional abuse may not be visible to the eye, but the effect it has on the victim can be traumatic.”

Read more: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/signs-of-emotional-abuse-relationship_us_5a999fbee4b0a0ba4ad31a4d

For the parents of all ages! This article does a great job in explaining ways that a toddler can be cared for. Obviously, at this age, all parents and people in general want a little baby to feel as loved as possible. There is more that goes into it than people think. This time of a toddler’s life is essential as this is when they start to formulate their brain and learn much more about themselves.

Key Takeaways:

• People use coping mechanisms to give themselves a sense of comfort and control over their environment.
• Avoidance is usually indirect and can take many forms, such as focusing on some other task.
• People that blame others generally transfer their own shame onto others to try and control them with guilt.

“Most of the time, toddlers can get away with blame, denial, and avoidance, because they’re so darn cute. When adults do it, we’re not so cute.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201802/love-and-toddler-brain-coping-mechanisms

Wedding coordinators see couples when they’re stressed, which means they’re honest with one another and sometimes on their worst behaviors. And, they’ve gathered a few opinions from these up close and personal experiences with couples and now say that many signs indicate that a marriage isnt going to last. As people who work so closely with others getting married, coordinators know what they’re talking about! They say these are the most common signs that the marriage is in trouble.

Key Takeaways:

• Wedding coordinators know if a newly married couple are going to stay married or end up in a divorce.
• If a couple rushes into marriage and have only known each other six months, chances are the marriage will not last.
• Stress is a big factor for marriages. The less stress a newly married couple has the more chances they have of staying married.

“If the pair has a strong foundation, they’ll work through any stressors they encounter as a team and doing so will bring them closer together.”

Read more: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/8-signs-a-marriage-wont-last-according-to-wedding-coordinators_us_5aa952b9e4b0f4aaa112e796

If you want to be with your ideal intimate partner, you need to make sure you are worthy of that person. A true partnership is based on valuing your partner, prioritizing love over dominance in the relationship. If you are controlling or not valuing your partner, you can demoralize that person causing him or her to lose interest in many things, including the relationship. You need to be a caring, ideal partner if you want to find and keep your ideal relationship partner.

Key Takeaways:

• Being the kind of parter you want is key to getting your ideal partner.
• Your ability to gauge your ego is key to finding out the partner you want.
• Power struggles are not healthy or beneficial in healthy relationships.

“The secret of love relationships lies not in exerting power but in creating value, through interest, compassion, and care.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201803/how-get-the-intimate-partner-you-most-want-have

The author, a clinical counselor, observes that many problems in modern intimate relationships mirror dysfunction in the current political landscape. He describes “toddler brain” and “adult brain” behaviors in relationships and political discourse. The former is characterized by intolerant, self-centered behavior, which copes with problems by blaming others or denying or avoiding the issue—like a toddler who acts out to induce an adult to meet his needs. Just as these behavioral habits hinder constructive political dialog, they prevent couples from addressing and improving foundational issues. The author posits the 24-hour news cycle and social media react with the human tendency to focus negative emotions to create the conditions for toxic relationships as well as public life.

Key Takeaways:

• Understanding the toddler has actually been a focal point for many parents out there. Parents want to understand toddlers and help them develop whenever they can too.
• Toddlers are entering a special age of development in their lives. Notice that they often say “mine” and want to take what belongs to them.
• These toddlers might also figure out how to say no in time. That will be of good use and help parents who want to know more.

“Most arguments of today’s politicians and intimate partners can be reduced to the favorite two words of the toddler – one says, “Mine!” and the other says, “No!””

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/anger-in-the-age-entitlement/201803/toddler-brain-politics

No doubt about it, divorce sometimes brings out the very worst in people. Even worse, the person you are at odds with, your ex, knows you well enough to push all of your buttons if and as he or she sees fit. If there are children involved they see this bickering behavior and all too often go on to repeat it later in their own lives. Do you want to avoid the drama? There is a very simple solution: STAY SINGLE!

Key Takeaways:

• Understand the motives of a narcissistic ex and be prepared for it. That could help people survive a breakup and move on with their lives.
• A divorce is often a costly step and people will follow suit in time. It is possible to have an intelligent divorce take place along the way.
• Many people actually grieve and get therapy as a result of divorce. Support is available and people will follow along with that over time too.

“While it is true that the one leaving (the leave-er) is usually less burdened by the divorce than the one being left (the leave-ee), an intelligent divorce is a possibility. Most people grieve, get some therapy or support, and sooner or later, call it a day and move on.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-intelligent-divorce/201803/the-impossibly-narcissistic-ex

Sociopaths can be very charming and endearing but once they gain your trust, they can inflict a lot of harm. The key is recognizing a sociopath when you first encounter one. They are excellent at manipulation but beware of actions and promises that seem too good to be true. They can also try to gain your sympathy with tales of how they were victimized by others. They can be found in all professions from drug dealers to politicians and can potentially cause harm to anyone who gets in the way of their agenda.

Key Takeaways:

• Some victims are surprised that they are being targeted by a sociopath. That can happen in any place and people are shocked to find that out.
• Some people can be manipulated in surprising ways over time too. That turns people in to the target of a variety of crimes as well.
• Read the research and stay actively involved when it comes to these crimes. A sociopath could strike at any time and affect the lives of people in places.

“Most people don’t know what to watch out for and are shocked at how they were manipulated. Anyone can be a target for a sociopath.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life/201803/are-you-the-target-sociopath-part-i-2

Narcissism affects children in a negative way because parents are their children role models and however they act towards their kids will result in how they will grow up in the future. The article described the definition, listed out examples of symptoms kids will have from Narcissistic parents, and a solution to resolving this issue. All parents should be wary of how they treat their kids in order to prevent them from growing up in a negative environment.

Key Takeaways:

• Children can be harmed psychologically and emotionally by narcissistic parenting.
• Health professionals can be misled by narcissists and only see what the parent shows them.
• The best way to combat narcissism is by employing empathy in raising your kids.

“The cornerstone of this disorder is a lack of empathy and the inability to tune into the emotional world of others.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-legacy-distorted-love/201802/how-does-narcissistic-parenting-affect-children

Divorce can be devastating, especially for a wife whose husband leaves her for another woman. It’s easy to become angry and hold onto resentment long after the divorce, but this anger can prevent moving on with your life. You need to turn your thoughts inward and focus on yourself. By realizing it’s not your fault and looking forward to a future without thinking about him is the best way to help you resolve the anger and live your life.

Key Takeaways:

• Women affected by Wife Abandonment Syndrome have a symptom of anger towards their ex partner. Some will even think up schemes to hurt their ex for abandoning them.
• Keeping the story of what your ex has done to you might give you a feeling of validation when being consoled by others, but it comes with a price.
• It is best to move on from the abandonment in order to become happy once again, and soon you will forget what that person did to you.

“It comes from finally really knowing that what he did was wrong and no longer needing confirmation of that fact.”

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/schlepping-through-heartbreak/201710/consumed-anger-long-after-the-marriage-ends