Commentary

When two people are splitting a marriage, it is a sad thing. Marriage is a sacred thing and in today’s world, too many people do not realize that. Collaborative divorce is a way that some people come together and settle on litigation and keep it more “in house.” This allows people to use trusted individuals as lawyers who can broker the case. If this is how people want to divorce, then who is anyone to tell them no?

Key Takeaways:

• Some people work better with the people that they know in these kind of situations.
• Too many individuals are caught up with the stigma of what divorce is without knowing the story.
• If someone is truly unhappy, then no one should tell them how they need to live their life.

“The first one is that the collaborative process results in a team of professionals that help the parties work together to reach a settlement. This is because the details often hang-up the process of settlement.”

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Many women who go through divorce are actually at ease with the tough predicament. They might not have initially wanted a divorce but when it comes, they are much more ready to let go than men. Men try to hold on to the past a little bit more than women and as a result, they can feel a bit more stressed than their counterparts. However, the body line is that it is really stressful on both parties.

Key Takeaways:

• Some women are able to deal with the entire process a little better than men.
• It is hard to describe as to why women accept a deteriorating relationship more so than a man.
• No matter how you put it, it is a stressful feeling for all parties that are involved.

“He describes part of this paternal instinct as a longing to belong with the status quo, and to be a provider. “If a man is feeling distraught or shameful [because of the impact his family is feeling from divorce], he might disappear from the picture.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/2013196606/three-reasons-why-divorce-for-men-more-stressful-than-women

Even though we all know that divorce and breakups are messy and heartbreaking, lately celebrities have been touting that their separations are done only in love, amicably and even(one said), boringly. Thanks to one star’s coining the phrase, “conscious uncoupling” it has become even more popular for popular(and not so popular) people to divorce. Who knows if their comments on their separations are code, though, or if they really mean the rosy pictures they paint of their divorces.

Key Takeaways:

• Justin Theroux, ex-husband of Jennifer Aniston, reported their divorce as “gentle” and even “boring.”
• Other couples like Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt have turned their divorce into a learning opportunity.
• Even Channing Tatum and Jenna Dewan claim their divorce has been inspirational.

“Justin Theroux and Jennifer Aniston are the latest stars to go down the ‘Conscious Uncoupling’ route”

Read more: https://inews.co.uk/opinion/columnists/justin-theroux-jennifer-aniston-divorce/

Relationships present many obstacles that question relationships themselves. Every day drama could turn into big issues. There are some helpful tips to keeping a good marriage or relationship. First being honest is most important. Constantly checking goals and continuing to accomplish them. Attention and appreciation towards each other. When arguing do not try to push buttons and tell your exact feelings. Lastly, if there are problems or unhappiness, begin to change the approach and try again.

Key Takeaways:

• First being honest with each other and setting goals and accomplishments.
• Achieving your goals and accomplishments and being supportive with attention and appreciation towards each other.
• When arguing do not try to push each others buttons and tell your exact feelings.

“In my experience, people simply don’t know what to do to sustain love and passion in their relationships. I used to be one of them.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/experts/jeff-forte/stop-the-drama-how-save-your-marriage-from-divorce

There are many parents that go through a divorce. In today’s social climate, it feels as if it is happening more and more as time goes on. People are just far less inclined to work through their differences and figure out how to make a marriage work. It is no question that marriage is very difficult. For the people with families, they do not realize the impact that a divorce can have on their kids as they grow older.

Key Takeaways:

• Some kids are able to deal with these things better than others and it has been proven.
• Many people struggle internally to deal with the separation of two parents as it takes a toll.
• It could always be much worse as you realize there are many people who grew up without parents.

“It is often helpful to try a collaborative divorce model to lessen the psychological damage that can occur from a contentious divorce.”

Read more: https://www.masslive.com/living/index.ssf/2018/09/psychologist_offers_tips_on_helping_children_cope_with_divorce.html

The Marriage Foundation is hailing the encouraging results of its recent research project which has determined that divorce rates among couples married less than three years, between three to five years and over five years have all seen huge reductions. The study attributes this, at least in part, to fairer and more equitable social norms that help make relationships more satisfying and more stable. The Marriage Foundation notes that breakup rates among non-married couples remain much higher than for married couples.

Key Takeaways:

• Fewer women are filing for divorce because their husbands are assuming a larger share of marital duties.
• Marriages today are more stable than they have been at any time period since the 1970s.
• Couples who do not marry are experiencing far higher break-up rates.

“Couples divorcing after three years has halved while couples who have stayed for more than five years has gone down by more than 39 percent.”

Read more: https://www.modernghana.com/lifestyle/12707/divorce-rates-drop-to-their-lowest-levels-in-nearly-30-years.html

Even if monogamy is scientifically “not natural”, if you choose to be monogamous then you need to live that out. No one can accidentally choose to cheat on a significant other, and by doing so, you show just how little you may think of your significant other. Cheating on them is the lowest form of betrayal and yet something that could only be done to someone so close. So if you want to be married, be married. If you don’t, then don’t.

Key Takeaways:

• Cheating is basically a form of betrayal, and specifically one men reserve for their romantic partners, even though many would never treat other people this way.
• No matter how much time you spend around other women, you have the ability to choose not to cheat.
• While monogamy may indeed not be a “natural” fit or the right fit for everybody, if you want to sleep with someone else, you should break up first, not cheat.

“These men are quasi-experts on cheating — because they did it. And look, I’m not here to pass judgment on their infidelity, I simply have an issue with their reasoning.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/experts/charles-orlando/why-do-people-cheat-and-why-cheating-always-choice

Being in a unhealthy relationship is something that most people can say they have experience. It is hard, in today’s world, to find someone that is willing to sacrifice for you and love you for who you really are. With that being said, no one should have to conform to someone’s desires in such a way that they lose sight of who they are. If you are in a relationship where that occurs, you need to get out ASAP.

Key Takeaways:

• If you are struggling to be happy, then you simply need to change what you are doing.
• Your life is far too precious and short to waste time of things you do not like, or enjoy.
• If you are feeling that you cannot thrive in the situation you are in, it is a sign to get out.

“Ever wanted to break up with someone for a really long time and never have the guts to do it? Well, that was me one month ago. Except it wasn’t my boyfriend I was trying to end a relationship with, it was my job.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/2015284023/4-clear-signs-you-should-break-up-him

Marriages end and usually with good reason. And, while most would admit that they are better off with the knot untied, some do find that even if the marriage was de-raveling to the point of being quite bad, even if it just wasn’t worth the work going into it any more, that they still miss having that other familiar person around.

We are all creatures of habit. And when we have spent large chunks of time, decades even, or more, seeing the same person, existing in the same space with that individual year after year, often while doing things together, frequently automatically, and by a short-hand developed by the simple act of cohabitation over long years, it really is no wonder that a split causes a sense of rupture. In such cases, loneliness is likely to ensue, even if it is the loss of tradition and the comfort of sameness that is truly being mourned. These longings come into our minds dressed in the guise of the missing person, even though we realistically know how much better we are without him, or her.

Key Takeaways:

• Serge Bielanko has found bright spots since separating from his wife but loneliness plagues him.
• He doesn’t miss the arguments but he misses settling down on the couch with her at the end of the day.
• He knows that eventually there might be someone else that will step in and take her place but he is not ready for it yet.

“There are nights when I stand in the middle of my kitchen in this old house I’ve rented, stare at the juice-stained couch sitting there like a battleship parked in front of the TV a room away, and wonder what the heck she’s doing at that exact moment.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/2014225740/how-deal-with-loneliness-when-your-marriage-ends

When someone takes up so much of your life, it’s impossible to get over them in a day or two expecially with your ex with whom you have in a long relationship.A question arises from time to time in your mind as to how you will move on without him. in the beginning its hard to accept but over a period of time getting your self busy will make up for the loss.When there’s no chance of rekindling the romance you once had, sometimes you’re left with only one choice Move on, change your frame of mind and forget about him.he no longer exists in your life so kick him out.change your thoughts to something fun, relaxing and/or positive. You are in control, and you’re choosing positivity.meet your friends ,near and dear ones but dont discuss about your ex, if they do so just ignore and change the topic.keep your self busy if he calls up dont answer and erase his number from your phone.dont move or pass by his house.if you need to feel beeter its good to go for counseling, do excercise, cycling go shopping with friends or hiking to keep yourself going and busy.

Key Takeaways:

• To get rid of unwanted thoughts, visualize a door in your mind that slams shut on them.
• Distract yourself from painful thoughts about your ex by imagining something fun to do.
• Expel your ex from your mind by refusing to check out his social media posts, or receive updates about him from friends.

“Our minds are so incredibly powerful that you can control your thinking, even when you think you can’t.”

Read more: https://www.yourtango.com/2015279371/how-get-over-your-ex-good-these-10-post-breakup-tips