Since the years when divorce became an acceptable alternative, there has been plenty of research on what it is that governs the longevity of marriages. Statistics indicate things like porn use and employment can be indicators of but also factors in getting divorced. Showy marriages are suspect but typical reasons for divorce remain infidelity as well as abuse. There is no real predictor for how long your marriage might last but divorce acceptance has led to a lot of information for would-be couples planning to wed.
As difficult as divorce is for a couple, it’s worse for the children involved. There are steps to take to ensure they don’t become pawns in a game and will not leave them feeling as if they too were in an emotional battle. This includes making sure they understand unconditional love and feel it from both parties. Do not confide in them; a child is not your peer and don’t allow them to feel they have to choose. Custody must be worked out between adults, and children have the ability to adjust to divorce, given the right parenting help.
Divorce is a painful process which might surprise some, considering that misery is usually the precursor to separation. But divorce takes a toll on one’s self esteem and faith in others as well. One requirement to regain self love after a hurtful or bitter divorce is the ability to change. Know that you will have to become a different person in order to face the challenge of being single again, seeing previously shared friends, dealing with family who think they can interfere. Courage will be necessary but a drastic life situation can lead to a new inner strength.
Most studies comparing the health of married and single people leave out the group that is divorced. Of the three groups, divorced people are typically the least healthy. A study of about 10,000 Dutch adults found that people who reported more health concerns going into the marriage were more likely to get divorced than people who were healthier. New research techniques are also debunking the myth that you will get healthier after you get married. In fact, a recent study showed the married people’s health declined slightly after getting married.
Marriage has changed over the centuries. Women have had traditional roles until quite recently. Now they go out to work. Not every wife is expected to stay home the way they were in past eras. This gives a feminist’s view on marriage. Feminists are all about rights for women and having them seen as equal. It’s interesting to see how marriage looks to them even if you don’t consider yourself one. It is definitely a unique perspective.
Read more: A Feminist Critique of Marriage
Cheating can really hurt a relationship. Trust is broken. It feels like a betrayal when you are cheated on. It can also be a bad thing as far as physical health goes. Your partner could give you an STD. What could keep a partner from cheating in the first place? Knowing this and cultivating it can save a great deal of heartache. Not cheating is definitely preferable to trying to fix it once it’s already happened.
Read more: What Keeps Partners From Cheating?
Marriage is irrational because the world’s current expectation of a marriage is for both partners to be available and willing to assist the other no matter what obstacles my be present. It is also irrational because over 40% of marriages end in divorce, making it a wild risk that would not be taken if those chances were applied to nearly any other aspect of life. There is no guaranteed way of knowing if a marriage will work, but hopefully a strong support system can help.
Read more: The Irrationality of Marriage
Depending on the situation, there are many people who can be, and should be, responsible for a child’s welfare during a high-conflict divorce. If a child dies during divorce proceedings, it could be the fault of the mother, due to her being suicidal and not wanting to leave her child to fend for themselves in a cruel world, severe and crippling financial issues, etc. It could also be the fault of the father for vengeance, or an outburst of anger. And, in some cases, it could be considered the fault of the government for not getting involved soon enough to remove the child from a dangerous situation. No matter who is at fault, those outside of the situation can help prevent this from happening by checking in on the child and providing assistance whenever possible.
There is only one signs that tells a couple that they need to go to therapy. If you are in a relationship, then it is time to go to therapy. That is because it helps couples that are not having any problems. It is never a bad time to seek out therapy. It can help prevent things as well as deal with things going on now. Therapy can turn a good relationship into a great one.
One of the leading causes of marital issues in the United States today stem from the use of Facebook by one, or both, parties in a marriage. Statistics indicate that Facebook users are much more likely to engage in relationships, both verbal and physical, outside of their marriage compared to couples who refrain from using the site. Users of the social media platform are also at risk of negative consequences such as addiction to the site, social isolation, and unhappiness in general due to the fact that they may feel that their own lives do not measure up to some of their friends and compatriots on the site. Facebook use also can lead to increased distrust in relationships because it is so much easier to track the activities of one’s partner or any other person of interest.