If you have an unsavory communication habit, regularly engaging in self-reflection is the first step. The first real step to change is admitting you need to change, and finding the motivation to change. Sometimes the motivation can come from inside a person, and other times there is an external force (such as a person we are in relationship with) pushing us toward change. Many of the coping mechanisms we learned growing up are hindering our intimacy in relationships, and once we recognize our ill-adjusted coping mechanisms, we can grow closer to our partners by working together to create healthier behavior patterns. The key to change is in celebrating the small victories; small victories spur us on toward even more positive growth.
- Two things are needed in order to enact change- believing change can happen and finding motivation for the change.
- One common motivation for enacting change is to acknowledge the financial cost of the undesired action.
- The key to enacting change is to create routines that enable you to succeed.
“People change all the time when it makes sense to them that, if they do change, their lives will be enhanced.”