Dragging men to couples counseling can actually make the problem worse. Especially if the spouse is chronically angry or resentful to begin with. Abusive partners will become angry after a session for perceived embarrassment. They felt as though they were ganged up on and retaliate with emotional or physical abuse. Most counselors will give significant more effort towards engaging the man in an attempt to keep him from dropping participation in the counseling. While this usually helps, it can lead to disaster with am abusive partner.
- Therapists have a tendency to try to engage the man because he is much more likely to drop out of counseling compared to his wife.
- An abusive partner might argue with or assault their spouse for telling the therapist about embarrassing things.
- Therapists often advise abused spouses to set up boundaries, but this does not work when the abuser has no intention of respecting those boundaries.
“If you live with a resentful, angry, or emotionally abusive person, you most likely have tried couples counseling and it has made things worse at home.”