The American consumer culture has taught us that we should always be happy. That makes us buy and buy more stuff. That leads us to think that we should be in a state of constant happiness. That will cause people to constantly seek out goals of wealth, power and a perfect spouse which they think will give them a perfect life. Unfortunately, that usually causes us to constantly seek more and more. We can never be truly happy if we are constantly chasing a moving goalpost. It will always seem just out of reach. A much better approach is to balance our hedonic well-being and eudaimonia well-being. Eudonimonia well-being is the feeling of having a purpose in life. Hedonic well-being is what we feel when we are happy or content. A balance of these two will let you be happy and have a reason for your life.
- A common misconception is that our goal always means to always experience pleasure.
- A more balanced life approach will use both hedonic pleasurable feelings and self-actualization of purpose.
- Contrasting the highs of hedonic pleasures with eudaimonic well-being will make us the most happy.
“We often scramble after other goals like wealth, power, and the ideal mate, in hopes that we will make this happiness more likely.”