Well-meaning people can drive themselves crazy trying to figure out how to communicate with a gaslighter, only to be flummoxed when they discover the gaslighter still isn’t listening. Gaslighters use “cognitive empathy” to present a shallow facade of listening and caring, but will swiftly drop the illusion as soon as they no longer need it to get or maintain control. A gaslighter needs you to fulfill their own needs and nothing more, and you are really better of just cutting off all contact if you can.
- If you have to co-parent with the person gaslighting you, be sure to limit contact as much as possible.
- Many refer to gaslighters as, ’emotional vampires’ due to how much they manipulate the emotions of others.
- Trying to leave is often a difficult but necessary task due to how much they hoover over victims post-breakup.
“So what can you do if the gaslighter doesn’t listen to you? Leave. Cut off all contact. Gaslighters are so wrapped up in their own needs that you will never be heard, no matter how hard you try.”