The best way to get the kind of intimate partner you want is to focus on cultivating the right traits and values to become the best possible romantic partner yourself. You need to decide on what kinds of traits you want to build, and whether you are willing to prioritize happiness and equality in a relationship over power or dominance. Then you can use this list of traits to generate specific behaviors that will help foster or develop them, in order to translate your values into concrete steps.
- When you are searching for the ideal partner, ask yourself if you want someone completely submissive to you or a partner who is cooperative.
- Keep in mind that you cannot nag, manipulate, criticize, or threaten your partner into valuing you.
- You must create value within your relationship through compassion and care, which will help you to develop a more loving union.
“To get the partner you want to have, be the partner you most want to be.”