A typical behavior when someone wants to hold onto a relationship is to attempt to modify themselves in order to ensure that they can hang onto the relationship. When you are in the beginnings of a relationship, the high you feel is so invigorating that it makes you fear the downfall that could potentially come. However, just embracing this feeling as one that could possibly be temporary may be healthier than trying to modify who you are and what your values are.
- In the start of a relationship, it is common to become attached quickly and to want to believe in the potential illusion of it being a permanent situation.
- Sometimes the things in others that make us unhappy are important in helping us discover more about ourselves.
- Many times, one goes from feeling incredibly attached and loved to feeling like they are only partially loved.
“It’s a real experience, and it’s a high. It’s a great feeling. We delight in it, we crave it, and we might behave recklessly or disrupt our lives for it.”