A divorce can mirror a bad marriage, what was bad in the marriage can carry over to the divorce. It’s important to understand the perspective of your partner. It’s easy to interpret their actions as hurtful when it may be your partner’s way of coping. Having empathy for your partner will help you cope in a divorce situation.
- I felt like he was punishing me. That’s what he has done all through our marriage. He’s always punishing me,” Stephanie answered in a tone of major distress.
- He always makes me feel insufficient, like there’s something I did wrong,” Stephanie complained, “so I reacted just like I usually do.
- Marriage takes both maturity and skills from both partners, plus good matching. Partner choice does matter.
“Marriage is challenging. Going through a divorce also is challenging for almost everyone who ends a marriage, often because whatever went wrong in the marriage probably will go wrong in the divorce as well.”