When parents get divorced, it is important for them to learn how to civilly and effectively cooperate with one another in raising their kids, whatever the circumstances of the divorce. This can feel almost businesslike, but maintaining respectful, transparent and clear communication is a critical co-parenting skill, as is avoiding the temptation to vent to your child about your ex. It’s also important to maintain flexibility in the face of changing circumstances, and to cooperate in helping to maintain the kids’ social networks.
- Parents who value their children’s love and respect behave and communicate respectfully with their ex while co-parenting.
- The children are carefully watching. Co-parents should stick to the agreements they reached while divorcing.
- When co-parenting looks like it’s failing, the parents should seek for support through counseling because their children’s life are at stake.
“The stability that comes from that cooperation is known to buffer the potentially negative effects of the separation on the children.”