Adjunct professor and tele-health counselor Dr. Nikki Martinez has written a feel-good piece on how to approach self-identity following a divorce. In short, she first attempts to downplay divorce as a source of personal failure, saying that many relationships, be it friendships, work relationships, and so on, do end in one way or another. She then goes on to write how, not only is divorce a great teaching moment, but also stresses how divorce is not so much a failure, but merely a conclusion to two individuals who’ve changed over the years. Specific teachable aspects include analyzing what things a person didn’t like about the relationship as well as him or herself. She closes with how one ought to examine what they are now looking for in a partner as their new, post-divorce self. The article is also interspersed with a few images evoking positivity and looking towards the future.
- Things that happen to us, whether they are positive or negative gives us a chance to learn and improve ourselves.
- Realizing that changing and growing is a part of life. We all change and mature with age and sometimes it will change what we want or need out of a relationship.
- The ending of a relationship is not a failure but a chance to realize what changes happened to end the relationship and gives us a chance to grow.
“The important thing is to not let the end of the relationship make you feel like it is the end of everything, and instead look at it as an opportunity for new beginnings, growth, and greater happiness.”