Some people think divorce and separation are the same thing, but they are not. If you want to get a divorce, then you should take it one step at a time. Separate first and see how it feels. This will allow you to adjust to it and see how things may work out ahead. After taking some time to think about the marriage, you will be able to make better choices moving forward.
- It’s common for people to think separateand-divorce, all one thing, but they’re two different things. Separate (think), divorce (let go).
- If your marriage isn’t as unhealthy as you made it out to be here, then the solitude, focus and clarity permitted by your separation will help you repair your communication from your two different homes.
- A dynamic where one spouse pushes all blame onto the other is a textbook formula for your abuse. Drop your plea for couple’s therapy, please, and start going just for you.
“Why not agree to the separation — since it seems to be coming anyway, whether you want it or not — and see how you feel after you adjust to it?”