What life is like going through a divorce with a baby involved. There’s a few steps you can take to make the difficult time be a lot easier. For instance the feeling of not feeling like a normal family because of the divorce. Even the fact of one parent having the child for a few hours may be an uncomfortable feeling because your constantly worried about your child. The best step with that is trusting your ex spouse. That’s the only way you will be able to get over that hurdle not completely but just enough to break-even some what.Also as a divorced parent you will also miss out on a few important aspects your baby goes through as an infant due to the fact that the baby is with his/her other parent or your at work and the baby is with someone else like a babysitter or at day care. With this being said its not necessarily your fault, the circumstances are this way. Still its good to stay in full contact with your ex so that they know what new things the baby has experienced. At the same time both of you will have your own separate experiences with the baby, due to the fact your no longer together. A good example is you may wake up in the middle of the night to check on the baby and he/she maybe blowing bubbles for the first time ever. There will even be a time when either of you gets a boyfriend/girlfriend and you bring that person around the baby. Neither of you will like it at first because you never know how that person is with the baby whether they are treating the baby right or wrong. You have to trust your ex is doing the right thing when it comes to bringing someone new around the baby. There will be times when the baby may seem sad and that’s only because the baby is used to the constant routine of both parents being around on a daily basis. With that being said babies can feel your emotions. The way babies show this is they become difficult like things that were once easy will now be slightly difficult. It is also very possible for the baby to develop colic, when that happens the baby may resist being soothed, constant crying, even losing interest around them. Being divorced there are a few steps you can take to help. For instance respecting one another as parents is a good thing even though both of you may not always agree on certain things. Another way is if you experience something new with the baby you could record a video or take pictures. Just make sure to send it to the babies other parent so they can witness the memory also. When it comes to disagreements you must keep that away from the baby. Keep in mind your baby sense emotions so if your angry the baby will be too. Trying to sooth a crying baby when your angry can be pretty frustrating. Another step is introducing your baby to new people is a good thing. But you can’t just spring a new person on the baby quickly you have to ease a new person into there lives. That being said it can be upsetting to the baby. Lastly its good to have a really strong bond with your baby. Once the baby has that strong feeling that they can trust you it makes a lot of things way easier. With that being said if the baby cries you will instantly know what’s wrong whether the child is hungry, needs to be changed or sleepy.
Those were just a few steps that can help you get through divorce with a baby involved. If any of the steps seem to get difficult its good to ask family or friends for help. Even a licensed professional.
- The “normality” of family life exists no longer across a range of things.
- The divorce will impact the child immediately and in the future.
- Communication between you and your ex should not be in front of the baby.
“Divorce is difficult no matter what the circumstances. But when your divorce happens while you have an infant, life gets really tough.”