It is not just young kids who feel resentment over a parent’s new love. A lot of adult children have trouble accepting the new partner in their parents’ life. There are many intense feelings behind a stepchild’s behavior when they feel threatened, so don’t expect acceptance to happen overnight. Keep spending time with your children and do not overshare details of your relationship with them. Don’t let your new partner isolate you from family and friends either. Finally, let your children know you’re still there for them.
- The presence of children from a previous relationship – minors or adults – can throw a serious obstacle in the way of any relationship, especially if they are not fond of a parent’s new partner.
- Be realistic about giving your adult children time to adjust to and get to know a new partner, and spend some quality time with them to strengthen that relationship.
- It is important not to allow a new partner to put distance between you and your children, as this is the single best way to prevent your children from liking or accepting them, and is bad for you, too
“Don’t expect your adult children to be immediately delighted at your news.”