The term, “woulda coulda shoulda” is often used to depict how someone could have or should have acted in response to a certain situation from their past. Using this term is actually somewhat contradictory, because we are programmed as humans to respond to specific stimuli in clear-cut ways during different times in our lives. Focusing on how we should have or could have acted in past scenarios is often a waste of energy since we acted in the way our brains were programmed to at that point.
- When someone replies “Yeah, coulda, woulda, shoulda”, they are essentially rejecting the implication that you could have handled the situation more successfully.
- Our bodies work hard to protect our psychological and physical well-being; sometimes the feeling of regret arises from a choice made out of self-protectiveness.
- Regret is a useful emotion for illuminating our morally just (or unjust) actions, but we must be mindful not to dwell in the feeling of regret.
“But what’s most notable about this idiom is that it implies possibilities that, given the human psyche, lack any basis in reality.”